Rewriting the Rules: An Integrative Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships

Rewriting the Rules: An Integrative Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships

  • Book Author: Meg-John Barker
  • Categories: Sex, Relationships, Monogamy, Non-monogamy
  • Book Publisher: Routledge
  • Publication Date: 2012
  • ISBN: 9780415517638

Editors Description

We live in a time of great uncertainty about relationships. We search for “The One,” but find ourselves staying single because nobody measures up. The reality of our relationships is not what we expected, and it becomes hard to balance it with all the other things that we want out of life. At the same time that marriage shows itself to be the one ‘recession proof’ industry; the rates of separation and break-up soar ever higher.

Rewriting the Rules is a friendly guide through the complicated – and often contradictory – rules of love: the advice that is given about attraction and sex, monogamy and conflict, gender and commitment. It asks questions such as: which to choose from all the rules on offer? Do we stick to the old rules we learnt growing up, or do we try something new and risk being out on our own?

This book considers how the rules are being ‘rewritten’ in various ways, for example the ‘new monogamy’, alternative commitment ceremonies, different ways of understanding gender, and new ideas for managing conflict and break-up where economics and child-care make complete separation a problem. In this way Rewriting the Rules gives the power to the reader to find the approach which fits their situation.

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