There is a great article and interview here with counsellor and writer, Terry Real.
He offers powerful insights into the ways in which childhood patterns and no longer useful “adaptive” behaviours can impact on our relationships.
The stand out line for me was where he talks about setting the child in us all to one side and interacting as the adult we now we are. This takes consciousness and skills that we here at Alethya can support you in developing. Check out our Professionals page or read more about conscious relationships here.